Do you feel attacked?
Are you in a psychological battle with a narcissistic ex?
Have you been dealing with co-parenting abuse?
5 Factors That Made The Narcissist Stop*
From the author of Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: 7 Self-Rules to Stay Sane
Grace W. Wroldon - Author and Strategy Coach for Moms
You feel stuck. You’re forced to co-parent with a narcissist. It feels like having your own personal terrorist. He’s angry you left or that you are withholding narcissistic supply. If you find yourself in a situation with a bitter, resentful, vengeful ex-narcissist, you may find that he can use all kinds of abusive tactics that are subtle and passive-aggressive. I call this “Co-Parenting Abuse.” It was the way my ex would continually abuse me using the legal system, our child, and other court professionals - including our child’s pediatrician. I went through this hell-on-earth and now I am on the other side.
Thankfully, I discovered ways to make him stop hating me so much. I used skillful means to dissipate his anger which eventually stopped the attacks. It took time for my efforts to work but was totally worth it. Today, I have peace and true freedom from narcissistic abuse. It has also benefited our child to have less hostility and paper bullets of family court filings flying.
These tips are based on the author’s lived experience and are not a therapeutic method for dealing with personality-disordered individuals.
*Disclaimer: This is mom-to-mom survivor wisdom shared. If you are dealing with domestic violence (DV), please work with a DV counselor to develop a safe plan or contact the national domestic violence service for support. I am not qualified as a crisis case worker, therapist, or legal professional, so this PDF can’t be relied upon for guidance or safety measures. If necessary, you may need to involve DV and/or local authorities to get official protection and intervention in place. Personally, I used a DV counselor for six years to establish safety for myself and my child. I often had to speak to local police.
Here are some protective factors that I used to make my narcissistic-ex stop targeting, harassing, and attacking me. These may work for you, too. Know that these aren’t the only factors I used to get peace with the narcissistic co-parent. To learn more, including how I built a team of support “Team of Ten”, pick up my first book, #1: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: 7 Self-Rules to Stay Sane (available at Amazon).
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